Herald Journal Columns
May 12, 2003
Pastor's Column

How do you measure a mother's success in life?

By Rev. Derek Forseth, Blessed Hope Church, Howard Lake

A mother's job description can be one of the most unenviable tasks in our culture.

You are expected to love unconditionally, manage multiple schedules, provide wise counsel, fix aches and pains, serve as an unpaid/on-call taxi driver, and keep some semblance of order in the household to name a few.

The list could go on and on, and yet so many mothers are taken for granted.

The compensation for all of this effort is an occasional "thank-you" (often solicited) or maybe a brief hug and peck on the cheek as your child runs out the door (again, often solicited).

You aren't able to call it quits by merely pulling out a time card declaring "I'm off the clock!" Bewildered, frustrated, tired and stretched to the limit you're still mom.

And, for some of you, the equation gets more difficult as you factor in your own work schedule or go it alone as a single mother.

Before you get discouraged I want to remind you that your role in our families, our churches, our towns and our society is extremely important. No other individual has such an impact on the formation of our most precious resource, our children. Please don't ever forget that.

If you have given it your best, the investment you have placed in your child will someday show in their character. Always remember, there is no price tag one can place on a child who brings joy and honor to a parent.

Proverbs 23:25 (NIV) says, "May your father and mother be glad; may she who gave you birth rejoice."

The investment for this return is your sacrificial love. Hopefully, the expressions of gratitude and apologies will begin to flow when your child is faced with the awesome responsibility of parenting their own children.

Maybe you are a new mother or just looking for some helpful guidelines to be successful at mothering.

Pastor Warren Heckman of Madison, Wis., recently gave the following set of seven guidelines in our fellowships (FCA) Leadership magazine. The guidelines form the acrostic SUCCESS and apply to successful parenting.

S ­ Spiritual Stability. We produce what we are, not what we say.

U ­ Uncompromising integrity. Character is what we are when no one is watching us.

C ­ Commitment to God, His Word and our local church

C ­ Commitment to our families. They are number one in our time, energy and money.

E ­ Enthusiasm for life. We give it all we have got for our Lord and our family.

S ­ See success for your marriage and family. Visualize it, speak it, go for it.

S ­ See success for your kids. Encourage them, inspire them, empower them.

Will we always be successful as parents? Absolutely not. But it is just as important for our kids to see how we handle failure.

Asking for the forgiveness of a child is one of the most important lessons a child will ever experience. It is my prayer that on this Mother's Day each of you will remember how important your role is.

You are the "glue" that holds families together. You provide the sense of security that builds character. You set the moral tone that will stay with your child for a lifetime.

Remember that your devotion to God and family will be rewarded in eternity. Mothers, for everything you do we appreciate you.


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