Fathers, how do you spell love?
Philip A. Geoffrion, Albion Evangelical Free Church
How does a child spell “love”? Most of us would probably be quick to give the answer “L-O-V-E.” But one wise father suggested spelling the word “T-I-M-E,” not because children cannot spell but because they understand that their parents love them when they are willing to spend time with them.
T-I-M-E is a four-letter word with which fathers especially seem to have problems. As fathers it is so easy for us to fall into the trap of thinking that if we provide for the material needs of our children, and occasionally buy them games and toys, then they will automatically know that we love them. This is simply not true.
It is the actual T-I-M-E we are willing to spend with them that convinces them that we really do love them.
If we wish to show them that we care for them, then it will take T-I-M-E .
If we hope to build strong relationships with them, then it will take T-I-M-E .
If we expect to mold their characters and lives, then it will take T-I-M-E .
If we desire to influence them spiritually for God, then it will take T-I-M-E .
If we want to be good and effective fathers, then it will take T-I-M-E .Our lives are so busy that many of us have bought into the false notion that we really don’t have to spend very much time with our children, as long as the time we do spend is “quality time.” This is a myth; children know it and so do we.
To be able to devote the T-I-M-E required will likely call for the reordering of our priorities and for a willingness to sacrifice some of our own personal interests that seem so important to us. It will be worth it, though, if our children become truly convinced that we L-O-V-E them!