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Make your day
December 20, 2010
by Jenni Sebora

Start your day telling a loved one that you love them, and end your day the same way.

It is amazing what this simple act can do for the recipient and oneself. It is truly powerful to pass on these words of appreciation and love to someone.

In the news it was noted, men who tell their wives they love them each day live longer lives. A simple act, but with high dividends.

Sometimes, it does take a concerted effort to remember to do this. There can be such busyness in each day that we take on the day “full speed ahead,” and don’t stop to acknowledge appreciation for people in our lives. But, giving out words of praise, love, acknowledgement, and appreciation can set the tone for the day for all involved in the simple act.

Who doesn’t feel good when they have genuinely paid a complement or a thank you to someone? It can mean the world to the receiver, as well.

Sometimes, I just think the simple thought, “Why can’t people just be nice to each other?”

I love extending a greeting and a smile to someone, whether I know them or not. It is a great way to start the day and set the stage and the background for the day. It feels extremely gratifying to “make someone’s day.” Sometimes, that can be just a simple smile, greeting, or complement, because in doing so, there is acknowledgement of importance. We all want to feel important.

Before I leave for work in the morning, I try to tell each of my three children that I love them with a hug and a peck on the cheek and a wish that they have a great day at school. I want them to know that they are loved and valued, no matter what. My husband has also become a recipient of this act. I have made a concerted effort to do this with him, as I know how important it is.

It is funny how we forget that our spouses need to receive this outward and overt acknowledgement of love and value, too. We just think that they already know, but everyone on the planet, needs to hear it and feel it. We all need to feel connected by these words of love and appreciation. It is a basic and deep need.

When a survey was taken by spouses as to when they last received a complement from their spouses, the majority of spouses indicated that they could not remember the last time they received such a complement. This is sad, but true.

It can be easy to pick out our spouse’s faults and make sure they know about them. What does this do for anyone? Nothing good.

I am lucky. My husband is always extending words of love, respect, and appreciation to me, whether I deserve it or not – more than I do for him, and I have decided that is just not right. We should be the ones to make our loved ones feel better, not worse, about themselves.

So, at this holiday time of giving and tradition, what a wonderful gift to bestow upon others. Love, appreciation, respect, value – outward acts of kindness.