May 2, 2011
by Jenni Sebora

An unknown author wrote, “Before I was a mom, I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn’t want to put it down. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn’t stop the hurt. I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a mom.

“Before I was a mom, I didn’t know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I didn’t know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn’t know that bond between a mother and her child. I didn’t know that something so small could make me feel so important.”

“I didn’t know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a mom.”

Almost any mother who reads these words understands them to the core. Once you become a mother, you have become more vulnerable than you thought possible. Each time your child goes out the door without you, you will always hold your breath, in a sense, until their return.

Your children’s goals and aspirations become more important than your individual goals. It becomes far more important for your child’s dreams to come true.

Your children will always be at the forefront of your thoughts, hopes, fears, and dreams. Dale

Hanson Bourke, in a writing from “Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul,” – “Motherhood . . . It will change Your Life,” puts it that a woman’s life once so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. So true. As a mother, myself, I embrace this.

The relationship with my husband, as Bourke describes as well, has changed as a mother as well. My love for my husband and my relationship for him as my husband, the father of my, his, our children has changed, but not for the worse.

My husband and I share the bond, the love, the vulnerability that only he and I can share, being the parents of our children. He is the only one who can remotely know and feel the love and connection I have for our children.

Being a mother is difficult, challenging, tiring, frustrating, draining, scary, but, above all, gratifying, bountiful, joyful, and full of love that is overflowing.

On this Mothers Day, I wish for all mothers, much bounty, joy, and love. May you continue on with the greatest vocation of all, motherhood. We have, and will, make mistakes along the way, but if love is at the forefront, it will out shadow the mistakes.

Happy Mothers Day.

Dads, here’s an idea for a homemade gift for mom. Buy a flour sack towel and some fabric paints, pens, or markers, and have your children draw a picture on the towel for mom. The picture may be of a flower, their hand print, a self portrait, a drawing of mom, or whatever your child chooses. Have your child sign his/her name and write the year, as well.