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Fathers Day - we need our fathers
June 6, 2011
by Jenni Sebora

Sigmund Freud said, “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.”

When I think of my father, those words ring so true. A father is a source of strength and wisdom. My father had large hands, and those hands were both emotional and literal sources of protection, safety, and strength for me.

I was involved in many activities growing up and in high school, and my parents supported me in all of them. I excelled in athletics and especially in running, and many times I put a lot of pressure on myself, but my father never did. He was just always there. If I did not perform as well as I wanted, he always said, “You did the best you could for today.”

I will never forget those words. My father was the soft place I could “fall.” He loved me unconditionally as my mother did, as well. This unconditional love I, too, pass on to my own children. We all need to be accepted for who we are, and then encouraged to be that best person that we can be. That is what my father and mother did for me.

We celebrate Fathers Day to honor the contributions that our fathers and father figures have given us.

Sonora Smart Dodd was influential in the formation of Fathers Day. Her father raised six children by himself after the death of their mother.

In 1907, a group of men were killed in a mining accident in West Virginia. The origination of Fathers Day may also be attributed to the memorial service hosted for these men.

As a mother, I can also say that we need fathers. Parenting my own children is definitely a shared effort between my husband and me. We share the same family values, which certainly has helped in our parenting decisions. We are partners, and I am so thankful for his support of me as a mother and the support he gives our children.

My children know that their father loves them unconditionally and always will, and that is the greatest gift that he can give them.