Stupid Cupid?
February 14, 2011
by Rev. Robert Hellmann, St. Paul’s Ev. Lutheran Church, Montrose

Twaannng! Cupid shot his arrow into the crowd at the party.

Thwack! It hit Fred and immediately, he was smitten at the sight of lovely Wilma standing near the punch bowl. He pursued Wilma, and soon won the hand of the fair maiden.

After a starry-eyed courtship, Fred and Wilma got married and they lived . . . happily ever after?

At first, everything went fine. But then things began to fray around the edges.

Wilma wasn’t quite the perfect woman Fred had fallen in love with. Adoration turned to edginess, and then to disappointment.

Wilma discovered that Fred had some rough edges that didn’t show until after the I do’s were said. The honeymoon was definitely over.

What went wrong? Why did the sweetness of love turn sour? Why were they sliding into apathy toward each other? Why were resentment and dissatisfaction growing?

Here’s the problem. Both Fred and Wilma understood love as meaning, “What will you do for me?” That is a selfish kind of love. When neither of them got what they wanted from the other one, they both became disappointed and disillusioned.

Here’s the solution. God points every husband and wife to a different kind of love in Ephesians 5:25. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”

Jesus, the eternal Son of God, came to save a world of unlovable sinners who were in rebellion against God. He came because he loved the unlovable and was committed to rescue you from sin, death, and hell.

Jesus came, even though it meant suffering unbearably for you on the cross. He succeeded in his self-sacrificing effort “to make her [the church] holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” (Ephesians 5:26-27)

Husbands, God calls on you to love your wives in the same self-sacrificing way, out of pure love, expecting nothing in return.

Wives, isn’t a husband like that far better than a deceptive heartthrob? Isn’t a man who has your best interests at heart, one whom you can respect and love with all your heart?

Forget Cupid. Build your marriage on unselfish love and a firm commitment to each other. Ask “What can I do for you?” instead of “What will you do for me?”

And build your marriage on the Lord Jesus Christ and the salvation He freely offers to you.

Happy Valentine’s Day!