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Fathers are best
June 20, 2016
by Jenni Sebora

I am writing about Fathers Day after the event, just as I did with Mothers Day.

It is never too late to talk about the importance of fathers and father-figures in children’s lives.

As Dr. Phil has said, for boys, their fathers are the number-one influence in their lives, and for girls, how their fathers treat them will have a major influence on how they allow others, especially males, to treat them.

I really believe this to be true. As a mother of a son and two daughters, I witness this. My husband is a wonderful father. My son and I are very close and have a very good mother-son relationship. We respect each other, and now that he is an adult, we have very good conversations about politics and world events, as well as family and personal values.

While my son may come to me first on personal topics, he very much respects his father and will talk with him about other topics, such as finances, college classes, and legal topics.

My husband loves this. He loves to have conversations with our children.

My husband also shows a lot of respect to our children and their individuality. He always tells our children that his number-one priority for them is that they are happy. Not that they won’t have challenges and some struggles along the way, but he wants them to be joyful and happy people.

My husband is a wonderful role model for our son. He works hard, but really enjoys spending time with his family – his children. He loves conversing with them about anything and everything.

I would call my husband a keeper of endless facts about everything, and my kids love this. They will ask him random questions about music, sports, presidents, geography, and more often than not, he will be able to spew off the answer.

One most important father value that I love about my husband is that he really listens to our kids. He will give them advice in very respectful tones, but he always wants to hear their side of issues.

This has such a large impact on the development of self importance and value, because someone values what they have to say and how they feel. I am truly thankful for the relationship my husband has with our children.

My husband is also a wonderful male role model for our girls. He treats them with great respect, and values who they are as individuals. He treats their mother with much respect and love, and our children see this.

As Dr. Phil said (again), one of the greatest gifts you can give your children, is to treat your spouse – the other parent – with respect. This is a true gift my husband gives our children.

Our girls know that a boyfriend does not make them who they are. A partner should always value who they are. He wants our girls to know how wonderful they are as people.

There are lots of wonderful fathers and father figures – thank goodness for that.

Study after study shows that children with a father in their lives do better in school with grades, and emotionally and socially. They will be less likely to get in trouble with the law, and will not take unhealthy risks in their lives.

While some children live in a home absent of a father, hopefully, these children have a healthy and positive relationship with a father figure, such as an uncle or grandpa.

My father passed away almost 10 years ago, and I am still so grateful, and forever will be, for the presence he played in my life. He was such a kind and gentle man, as well as my biggest supporter and protector. He definitely helped shape my values and morals.

For all you fathers and father figures, male role models, may you know how important you are to the children in your lives.


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